Greetings on the last day of 2022- hope it has been a year that saw each of you through the happy and not so happy times. This year has been good one for me, despite having lost a much-loved aunt too soon. For me I also embraced with goodness and gratitude, that I was able to fly down to India to be with my family and my friends. This year 2022 marked the beginning of the post pandemic era- allowed for travel, connections and reunions.
As I finished my walk with my dearly beloved Olive at the most beautiful and lush green Cornwall Park, I made a note to myself to check in with you all. The topic that I write today is about making peace in letting go of connections that no longer serve a purpose. This issue is something that we all encounter at some point in our lives.
How do we know when relationships no longer serve a purpose
So, you might query, how do we know when relationships no longer serve a purpose – We know that by how we tend to feel in the company of some ; connections are meant to lift us up and make us feel lighter and not the other way around. Here are some guidelines or cues that you might instinctively feel
- Relationship always seem to be one sided
- There is no longer a rapport that you once shared
- You tend to have some comments thrown your way that make you feel at a loss
- An element of control – where your movements or activities are questioned
- You feel judged
- You no longer feel heard or understood
- There`s no evidence of lightness in your connection
- Everything always seems arduous
In my journey thus far, the most valuable learning that I am keen to share is that the core function of the brain is relational– so…. The quality of our personal wellbeing and social life is much much much dependent on the company we keep and the connections we make.
Some brainfacts: I have referred to this in my previous blogs the brain is connected to the head – it helps us think, the brain is connected to our heart (so its vital that we keep up with company that delights us and warms our spirit). The brain s also connected to our gut- so if you are in company of some that get your feelings to go down south then the impact of those emotions, also hit the gut. So be mindful and take personal responsibility in setting boundaries and / or letting go.
Letting go of some connections can be daunting – there is also a certain sense of fear and ambiguity in setting those boundaries or making a decision to completely let go , for – many a times these are folks who might have known you for an incredibly long time . And that can be quite an inhibiting factor or a barrier
But please do believe that it can be done and the reward is most gratifying🍀😊🌟🌟☀️
As you go through the process
Be patient with yourself
Check in with your inner value system
Learn to tell yourself that the intention here is to
Honour the self, the values that you cherish and to
Walk towards the vision that each of us have , for the
The ultimate need is to give, to connect and to serve
Each of us can do this – in little ways or large ways
So, it is perfectly okay to
Let go of what no longer aligns with your vision and allows you to serve with purpose…
Here`s to new beginnings –that lifts your wairua , warms your heart , lightens your gait
Wishing you all an amazing 2023 !🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟💚