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April 2024

To my dear readers,

Wishing you all a very good Sunday and a constructive week ahead  !!! I am grateful to have completed an 8k walk in the beautiful autumnal weather that we currently have in the  Southern Hemisphere. I hope that each of you add a dollop more of wellness by engaging in some form of movement ….

Today`s writing is about working through our emotional barriers / triggers by recognising emotional styles/ pattern and identifying our own emotional styles

Being aware – Knowing our emotional styles/ pattern and identifying our own emotional style integral / essential to be able to work through our emotional barriers.

Within the context of emotions – we can work through  our common emotional vulnerabilities / sensibilities and transform those into high quality valuable emotional experiences.

Being conscious of our own emotional states can be empowering – paves way for skills to navigate through the barriers. By not being conscious of our emotional styles, there is a tendency to feel captive, immobilised and triggered by emotions that remind us of past experiences

Our emotional styles are highly individualised –

Each of our emotional styles are dependent upon our history, parenting styles we grew up with or exposure to various circumstances that either made us feel excluded, abandoned or vulnerable

So, each of us as individuals have a predisposition towards feeling varying levels of vulnerabilities.

Hence recognising understanding our patterns of feelings and belief systems is crucial to emotional growth and for progression into resilience.

What are ways that we can work through these emotional barriers??

Teaching ourselves to rephrase that we do not give into those feelings and emotions that remind us of what was troublesome in the past

Teaching ourselves to use words that gently shift our belief systems into the present

Believing in possibilities that are light , meaningful and joyous

Holding on to values such as kindness, service , trust and patience that resonates with healing and resilience

Recognising that emotions are just data- of what we have experienced or experiencing.

Using affirming words to to infirm our thinking that “our feelings remind us of the past – we do not need to give into it “.It is about educating ourselves that rephrasing our thoughts and thinking – that we are in the now

Recognising that when we operate with painful emotions – our feelings our impacted and this works through our emotional body / psychology and then the physical body/ physiology

Recognising your emotional style is an important process towards moving through and past your emotional barriers

Next time you have an uncomfortable emotion – work on….

1. Creating a safe space for yourself to go into it
2. Using the acronym STOP – Stop, Take 3 deep breaths, Observe your feelings, thoughts, sensations in your body and Proceed with compassion
3. Writing down your feelings or engaging in movement – breathwork or art can be liberating.
4. Taking help to go into the emotions – without ignoring it 
5. Working on scripts that include affirmations that resonate with self-worth, validation and resilience.

“Whenever you are able to observe your mind, you are no longer trapped in it.– Eckhart Tolle