Checking in from off-shore ๐ŸŒฟ

Greetings to my dear readers โ€ฆI am here in India now – whilst grateful for time with my family , I feel twice as blessed to continue to do my mahi ๐Ÿ€โš“๏ธ

Many a times I get absorbed in discussions relating to trauma – the impact of trauma and the pathways towards healing โ€ฆ itโ€™s been raining here , and as I finished a discussion , I felt the need to make this the topic of todayโ€™s writing ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ

About the first image that got my attention at the Waiheke sculpture trail โ˜˜๏ธ๐ŸŒบ๐Ÿ€๐ŸŒฟ

Some questions that come my way

1. How do we redirect adolescents and young people – who constantly push boundaries ??

โƒ Find ways of affirming the young personโ€™s identify

โƒ Create a concrete visual where they are reminded of their own strengths and talents

โƒ Create a visual that affirms their identity to themselves

โƒ Write to them or make a visual that affirms their sense of belonging to your family

โƒ Connectedness , belonging and relationship is the core – so give messages that helps them understand that very clearly

โƒ Use words and set up visuals around the home – celebrating relationships and connections facilitate relational wealth


Connect ๐Ÿ’•

โƒ Help them to choose 2-3 values

โƒ Make a visual booklet of how the young people can practise their values on themselves – to those around and to extended community

โƒ Create a game / a set of cards with personalised questions such as

โƒ – what are your strengths

โƒ What would you like to be remembered for

โƒ What makes you smile


โƒ What are the feeling you get when you smile ๐Ÿ˜Š

โƒ What makes you kind

โƒ When do you practise kindness

โƒ Name the feelings that make you smile

โƒ Name the feelings that make you offbeat

– Name one or two of your favourite people –

– Name a famous petson you like – what values that they practise makes you admire them – kindness , honesty , bravery ???

โƒ What are your chosen values

โƒ How do you practice your values

โƒ Have words that Affirm or praise their strengths

โƒ Where do you see yourself in 3 yearsโ€™ time

โƒ What would you like to be doing in 3 yearsโ€™ time

โƒ What are you doing to get there ??

Cognitive strategies such as the aforesaid helps with thinking – cognitive skills excercise the cortical part of the brain called the thinking brain

Making Music ๐ŸŽผ๐ŸŒŸ


However for the thinking brain to work – the feeling brain has to be in a state of calm

๐ŸŒฟAbout the feeling brain ๐Ÿ€

The feeling brain is also called the stem or the primitive brain

โƒ some ways to help us all to embrace the calm

โƒ Engage in breathwork – breathe in to the count of two – hold for two counts and breathe out to the count of 4

โƒ Do stretches

โƒ Move as often as you can

– Be in the midst of nature

๐Ÿ’™ Blue and green ๐Ÿ€

โƒ Read your favourite story

โƒ Talk to someone you trust

โƒ Draw -find out what your favourite colour is

๐Ÿ€Compassion โš“๏ธ๐Ÿ€

โƒ Most important

โƒ Letโ€™s engage and teach that

โƒ Learning to use calming skills is important for being able to think clear – make right choices and to choose actions that are kind , appropriate and safe

โ€œ As you think so you becomeโ€ – Wayne Dyer

Love – kindness – Joy

Here is an amazing resource where two great minds (Oprah and Dr.Bruce Perry ) discuss Dr.Perryโ€™s book – What happened to you ?

Thank you for giving me a reason to connect ๐Ÿ˜Š


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